Cut for Success? What Your Hairstyle Says About You

by jessica lothstein for men’s life today

you get just one chance to make a good first impression — and your haircut needs to be an asset, not a liability. here are the signals your hair’s sending and why.

interview suit dry-cleaned? check. shoes shined? check. mohawk perfectly sculpted with extra pomade?

hold on a second there, cowboy. this is a job interview, where you’re supposed to strut your experience, not your feathers!

“research says we make our assessments of others in the first 15 seconds we meet them,” says john mckee, founder of the business success coach web site and author of career wisdom: 101 proven strategies to ensure career success. “within those first critical moments,” he says, “you’re being judged based on how you look, not what you say.”

and how you look doesn’t just include your clothes and your hygiene, but how you fashion your locks. mckee says it may have something to do with the fact that women make up a majority of the hiring force today, and “women are much more conscious and concerned about grooming, especially when it comes to hair.” but experts agree that you can infer a lot about people based on how they fashion their coif, including how you think they’re going to function as employees.

“the truth is, the way you present yourself — from your body language and clothing to the style of your haircut — absolutely determines how people treat you, especially in the workplace,” says bernardo carducci, ph.d., professor of psychology at indiana university southeast and fellow of the american psychiatric association. “it’s a rapid judgment call termed ‘cognitive efficiency’ that stems from caveman times, and it’s based on using past experiences to predict future outcomes. basically, if you don’t look the part, you won’t be deemed fit for the job (whether it’s true or not), and it could mean the difference between getting hired or not, or moving ahead as opposed to getting landlocked.”

so how do you know if you look the part? here’s what your hairstyle really says about you.

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side part
popular in: finance, politics, insurance.

says: serious and business-minded. you’re a hard worker who wants to get ahead.

why: it’s on the conservative and simple side, but it still shows that you put some effort into your grooming routine. it’s also a classic look that will never go out of style, because it conveys a sense of class and importance. “there’s a secret among hr people: that you’re more likely to get a promotion if you look like you’ve already made it,” says mckee.

“take a cue from the hairstyles of the people one level above your current role,” concludes mckee. chances are you’ll see lots of side parts.

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buzz cut
popular in: medicine, professional sports, the army.

says: confident and masculine. you care about appearance, but you’re too busy to spend too much time on your hair.

why: there’s a reason this look is favored by the military. it’s not just extremely low maintenance, leaving time for more important business (or battles, as the case may be), but it’s a bold statement that shows you “want to look like you’re part of the team and move up the ranks,” says mckee.

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faux hawk
popular in: fashion, photography, hipsterdom.

says: creative and extroverted. you’re concerned about standing out from the crowd.

why: it’s an edgy look that conveys a lot of confidence and personal style. that said, it’s also just breaking over into mainstream, so if you work in an environment where everyone else is sporting side parts, you’re going to attract a lot of attention. if, however, you work in a creative field where suits are optional (and even tattoos are acceptable), wear your faux hawk with pride. “if your appearance syncs with the rest of the workplace, it gives the impression that you’re able to handle the technical skills,” says mckee.

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textured bed head
popular in: hollywood, media, public relations.

says: trendy and detail-oriented. you care about the little things.

why: it’s a look that requires a fair amount of time to create and maintain, so it shows that you put a lot of effort into keeping up your appearance. “people in positions of power, especially recruiters, like to see that a potential employee takes care of himself and keeps up with trends,” says mckee. plus, “when you look good, you feel good and have more confidence,” says yeung.

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caesar cut
popular in: law, theater, gladiator rings.

says: intuitive and savvy. concerned about looking perfectly pulled together.

why: you have more important things on your morning agenda than spending hours styling your hair, but you still want to look like you take pride in your appearance, and more importantly, that you mean business. this look is great for guys of all ages, but it’s an especially good style for guys who are just entering the workforce. “younger people want to believe people will hire them based on competence and not appearance,” says mckee, “but unfortunately, that’s not the case. you do have to give up some of your identity if you want to be part of the team and move up the ranks.”

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jessica lothstein is a freelance writer and former editor at best life magazine. she writes on a range of subjects, including grooming and fashion.



FHM UK Annual 100 Sexiest Women In The World

FHM UK announced their annual 100 Sexiest Women In The World list today, and on top for a second year running was poptart Cheryl Cole.

Here’s a full rundown of the 100 hotties who made the 2010 list. (gallery links courtesy of DjMick.co.uk.)

Cheryl Cole

1. Cheryl Cole
2. Megan Fox
3. Marissa Miller
4. Frankie Sandford
5. Keeley Hazell
6. Kristen Stewart
7. Kelly Brook
8. Adriana Lima
9. Jessica Alba
10. Abbey Clancy

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Best Sunglasses to Match Your Face

By Jessica Lothstein for Men’s Life Today


Seems like every summer the sunglass industry (with a little help from Hollywood) honors its favorite decade by reviving a classic from the past. But just because Brad and Leo can get away with Aviators on the red carpet, and the entire male cast of Gossip Girl is partying in reissued Clubmasters like it’s 1959, doesn’t mean you should run out and buy a pair of either — at least not just yet.

“The rule with sunglasses, just like regular glasses, is that you want to offset the geometry of your face shape,” says Kenny Moscot, co-owner of Manhattan’s famed 90-year-old Sol Moscot Opticians. “If you have a strong jawline or cheekbones, you want to look for glasses with more curves. If you have a round or oval face, you want to look for boxy rectangular frames.”

And unlike trends, your face — of which there are five basic shapes — is here to stay. Here’s each kind of mug along with which kind of frames look best.

Ray-Ban’s Clubmaster

Round Face

“Remember this mantra: Round glasses on a round face only make your face appear even rounder,” says Moscot. Instead, look for boxy orrectangular frames to introduce some lines and angularity to your face.

Framous Icons: 1950s Beat Generation, Malcolm X, Johnny Depp

Try: Ray-Ban’s newly reissued Clubmaster, $140, available at Sunglass Hut (or find a retailer near you at the Ray-Ban Web site); Moscot’s Zelig (Henry Kissinger-esque), $199; Nebb (for Hipsters), $179. The last two are available at Moscot stores.

Tom Cruise in Top Gun

Square Face

If you have a prominent jawline, you want to draw attention to the top part of your face (and away from the bottom — the widest part). “Look for top-heavy frames with some curves to help soften and balance your face,” says Moscot. Square-faced men can’t go wrong with Aviators.

Framous Icons: Fighter pilots (Tom Cruise in Top Gun), G-men (Will Smith in Men In Black)

Try: Ray-Ban’s original Aviator, $130, available at Macy’s (or find a retailer at the Ray-Ban Web site); Tom Ford’s Charles Aviator, $320, available at Nordstrom, Neiman Marcus or Bergdorf Goodman stores.

Oval Face

You want to visually offset the length of your face, so choose a shape that covers as much of the space between the top and bottom of your nose as possible (known as a deep frame). “And absolutely stay away from small or geometrical frames,” says Moscot. “They’ll make your face look even longer than it is.”

Framous Icons: Run D.M.C. and the ’80s hip-hop scene; the entire cast of “Entourage”

Try: Prada Linea Rossa, $275, available at Neiman Marcus and Saks Fifth Avenue; Polo Ralph Lauren 3039J, $160, available at Sunglass Hut.

Oakley’s Nanowire

Heart-shaped Face

“Offset a wide forehead and cheekbones with rimless narrow frames,” says Moscot. They’ll draw attention away from the narrowing of your face (downward toward your chin) and prevent the top half of your face from looking bigger.

Framous Icons: Marathoners, police officers, Barack Obama

Try: Ray-Ban 3217, $150; Oakley’s Nanowire 2.0, $300. Both are available at Sunglass Hut and Macy’s.

Pear-shaped Face

Downplay a strong chin and jaw with semi-rimless or top-heavy frames. “They create an optical illusion by drawing the eye up toward the top of your face and away from the widest part, the bottom,” says Moscot.Lance Armstrong Oakley Half-Wire 2.0

Framous Icons: Lance Armstrong (semi-rimless), Buddy Holly (top-heavy)

Try: Oakley Half-Wire 2.0, $175, available at Sunglass Hut or Macy’s; Moscot Lemtosh, $180, Moscot Web site.

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Jessica Lothstein is a freelance writer most recently on staff at Best Life magazine and Organic Style. She writes on a range of subjects, including fashion.

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Is it Bromance? How to Pick the Best Wingmen

By Peter Pachal for Men’s Life Today

 


When you’re out flying the — hopefully — friendly skies in search of a good woman, you’ll need a great co-pilot. Here are the traits he’ll need to have.

Meeting women is not a solo sport. For men, it’s essential to work in teams — typically two-man excursions with one man in charge and the other designated as wingman, whose primary role is to assist the “pilot.” Whether the setting’s a bar or bookstore, a good wingman can turn a strikeout scenario into a successful sortie.

So what kind of guys should you recruit before suiting up for a mission? Well, when it comes to separating a green pilot from a flying ace, say our sources, a good wingman should be …

  • Assertive As anyone in the game will tell you, it takes guts to approach women cold. “A good wingman will push his buddy to take risks,” says Stephen Simpson, Ph.D., who wrote the book What Women Wish You Knew about Dating. “He gets you to do things you wouldn’t. He’s the icebreaker, the cheerleader and the commiserator when you get rejected. He makes you go talk to that woman whom you think out of your league.” Think: Sydney Fife (played by Jason Segel) in the recent hit flick I Love You, Man.
  • Similar (to you) No matter how bold your wingman is, if you don’t click with him, you’re probably going to crash and burn. Dr. Geoffrey Greif, a professor of social work at the University of Maryland, talked to 400 men and 120 women for his book Buddy System: Men and Their Male Friendships. Based on his research, he says, “Nerds don’t like hanging out with jocks — they find them intimidating and uninteresting. Masculine guys hate being thought of as gay, so they won’t hang out with effeminate men.” In other words, your wingman should be someone you’re comfortable with. While relative looks don’t matter that much, he says, “men seek friends who have the same level of masculinity.”
  • Adaptable It’s called “jumping on a grenade” — the wingman act of talking (and possibly more) with a girl’s friend, freeing up “the pilot” to hook up with said girl. But it’s just one of many wingman duties, all tying into being adaptable to any situation. If, for instance, in the middle of the evening you decide to change course and go after his prospect, instead of your own — your friend should go with it. If you introduce yourself and your wingman as traveling beekeepers (despite his potentially fatal allergy to yellow jacket venom) to spark the interest of a group of women, he should also go along with it. And if you make him pay for the drinks, he should still go along with it (because you’ll get him back later — right?).”He has to understand you — he has to be able to read you,” says Greif. “Men don’t like to explain things to a guy, so a good wingman will know when to get you to talk and when to not force you to.” Perfect bromantic example: Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. “They got each other’s humor,” says Greif. A more modern bromance: John (Owen Wilson) and Jeremy (Vince Vaughn) in Wedding Crashers
  • Male Contrary to conventional wisdom, women don’t make the best wingmen. While on the surface, enlisting a female co-pilot seems like a good way to show you’re “safe,” it raises too many questions, says Simpson. “She’ll wonder why you hang out with women. She’ll think you don’t get along well with other men. And she’ll have questions about your relationship and history with the woman. The last thing you want is a quiet, mysterious female at your side while you’re hitting on someone.”

Greif agrees that men make the best wingmen, with different reasoning: “They will not press the guy to be too emotional or emotive. Men like being with men because they will not be pressed to talk about their feelings as much as with women.”

The Ultimate Wingman
Put all those qualities together, and who do you have? According to Simpson, Vince Vaughn’s character from Swingers, Trent, epitomizes the ideal wingman.

“He begins by encouraging you and offering advice. He pushes and guides you until, suddenly, he’s no longer needed. A good wingman wants the student to become the teacher. He wants his buddy to reach the point where he says, ‘Don’t worry — I got this.’ It’s the self-sacrificial aspect of male bonding. We can’t die for each other in battle as much as we could a century or two ago. But we can still jump on a grenade now and then.”

Peter Pachal is a former writer for the men’s lifestyle magazine Cargo and the current editor of the SyFy Network tech blog, “DVICE.” Having lived and dated in New York City for 10 years before getting married this May, Pachal logged many hours as both wingman and pilot.